On the importance of developing internal validation as an ongoing means of support in our lives.
I often hear the phrase, “Someone else can only love you as much as you love yourself,” or “If you don’t love yourself, how are you supposed to love anyone else?” I understand what these phrases are trying to do: they’re trying to convince us to love ourselves, right now. But – I respectfully disagree with these statements, and here’s why.
How mindfulness and self-compassion can support us in allowing room for the tougher feelings.
We cannot buy or prove or hustle or hate our way towards loving and nourishing ourselves. We cannot start from the outside in and expect to find what we're seeking. We cannot attain inner transformation from things outside of ourselves.
We often think of loss in terms of death, but there is also loss embedded within every change we go through, both negative and positive.
Setting boundaries is hard—especially for people-pleasers. We often learn that our worth is tied up in what we have to offer or give others. We might fear being alone, leading us to do whatever it takes to assure that people don't leave.