We cannot buy or prove or hustle or hate our way towards loving and nourishing ourselves. We cannot start from the outside in and expect to find what we're seeking. We cannot attain inner transformation from things outside of ourselves.
We often think of loss in terms of death, but there is also loss embedded within every change we go through, both negative and positive.
Setting boundaries is hard—especially for people-pleasers. We often learn that our worth is tied up in what we have to offer or give others. We might fear being alone, leading us to do whatever it takes to assure that people don't leave.
We are inundated with messages of positivity, productivity, and possibility, all of which are amazing and inspiring. What can be harmful, though, is when we forget that we are also complex, multilayered beings with a wide range of experiences, emotions, and feelings.
The way we talk to ourselves is often harsh, critical, and not very loving. I’d guess that most of us don’t talk to ourselves the way we would talk to a friend (would you agree?)